My Breastfeeding Survival Guide: 10 Things I Wish I’d Known Sooner
Because “natural” doesn’t mean easy — but it can be beautiful.
When I was pregnant, everyone said breastfeeding was the most natural thing in the world.
And while that’s true, what no one told me is that natural doesn’t mean easy. Not even close.
With my first baby, I didn’t lactate for two days. She kept latching with so much hope, and nothing would come out.
She wouldn’t take formula either. I felt awful…. like I was letting her down.
Everyone said “just keep latching, it will come,” and thankfully, it did.
When my milk finally came in, it was like a flood…. and I had a very milk-drunk baby on my hands.
Since then, I’ve breastfed three babies, and I’ve learned so much that I wish I knew from the start.
That’s why I’m sharing these honest, practical tips: not the idealized version, but what actually helps when you’re in it.
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10 Things That Genuinely Made Breastfeeding Easier
1. I Created a “Nursing Nest” in Every Room
In those early days, I was feeding all the time.
The last thing I wanted was to get perfectly latched… only to realize my water bottle, snack, and charger were out of reach.
My fix: I set up nursing nests…. small baskets in my favorite nursing spots (bed, couch, glider).
What I kept inside:
- Giant water bottle
- One-handed snacks
- Burp cloths
- Lip balm
- Phone + charger
- A notepad or book
Need ideas on how to make your space cozy and practical?
Check out: How to Build a Breastfeeding Station at Home
2. I Mastered the Side-Lying Position
This literally saved my sanity during night feeds. Once I learned to nurse while lying down, I could actually rest. It felt more relaxed, less stressful, and much gentler on my body.
Confession: I actually knew about this position with my first, but I avoided it because I thought it wasn’t safe. It just seemed too risky at the time. But by baby #2, I was desperate for rest… and once I tried it (with safe sleep practices in mind), I realized it was a total game-changer.
How to try it:
Lie on your side with a pillow behind your back. Baby lies on their side, tummy to tummy with you. Line up their nose to your nipple and let them latch. A little practice, and it becomes second nature.
3. I Redefined “Success”
I had set an ambitious goal: exclusively breastfeed for one full year. But when we had to supplement in the beginning, I spiraled with guilt.
What changed:
I realized success wasn’t perfection. Success was a fed, healthy, loved baby. Whether it came from the breast, a bottle, or formula, that was enough. Letting go of the pressure made everything feel lighter…. and surprisingly, helped my supply.
4. I Used the Two-Shirt Method
Nursing tops? Too fiddly for me. But I didn’t want to feel exposed either.
The solution: A tank top under a loose t-shirt.
To nurse, pull the top shirt up and the tank down. Your tummy stays covered, and so does your chest. Simple, affordable, and so practical for public feeds or surprise visitors.
Want more stylish, mom-friendly options?
Check out: Must-Have Breastfeeding Wardrobe Essentials
5. I Stopped Watching the Clock
At first, I was glued to feeding timers and apps. “Is it time yet?” “Did he eat enough?” It became so stressful.
My shift: I started watching him, not the clock.
Rooting, lip smacking, hand sucking…. those were my cues. Once I leaned into on-demand feeding, I felt more confident and way more relaxed.
6. I Made Hydration Non-Negotiable
The second my milk let down, I felt like I could drink a river. Dehydration made me foggy and tired.
What helped: A 40oz insulated water bottle with a straw.
I drank at least 3 full ones a day. I kept it filled and in my nursing nest at all times.
Bonus Tip: What you eat matters too.
Try my Free 7-Day Breastfeeding Meal Plan Generator for nourishing meals that boost energy and milk supply without the overwhelm.
7. I Set Gentle Boundaries with Visitors
Everyone means well. But trying to host while figuring out feeding, leaking, and sleep deprivation? No thanks.
My boundary script:
“We’re not ready for visitors today.”
or
“You’re welcome to pop in, but we’re keeping visits short while we settle in.”
Also: don’t feel bad stepping away to nurse privately. You are allowed to protect your peace.
Struggling with this? Read my full guide on How to Set Boundaries with Well-Meaning Relatives Without Feeling Guilty
8. I Learned the Difference Between Pain and Discomfort
Some soreness is normal at first. But sharp pain, bleeding, or pain that lasts the whole feed? Not normal.
What helped:
- Breaking the latch gently and trying again
- Calling a lactation consultant (IBCLC)—they are literal superheroes
- My mantra became: Pain is a signal, not a requirement. It’s a sign to get help, not to push through.
9. I Wore Silver Nursing Cups
This was a total hidden gem I discovered in a mom group.
What they are: Small silver cups you place inside your bra between feeds.
Why they work: Silver has natural healing and anti-inflammatory properties. These little cups protected my nipples from rubbing and healed soreness faster than any cream I tried.
10. I Fell in Love with the Haakaa
If I could shout one product from the rooftops, it’s this one.
The Magic Explained: A simple, silicone breast pump that suctions onto the opposite side while baby nurses.
Why It’s a Game-Changer:
- Catches letdown (no more wasted milk!)
- Gently draws out extra milk
- Helps build a freezer stash without any extra effort
- Helped relieve engorgement and even prevented clogs.
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- Build a Breastfeeding Nook at Home
- Must-Have Breastfeeding Wardrobe Essentials
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- Body Positive Postpartum Fashion Tips for New Moms
- 7-Day Breastfeeding Meal Plan Generator
Final Thoughts
Your breastfeeding journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. It might be magical. It might be messy. It might be both in the same hour.
Let go of the pressure. Ask for help when you need it. And most importantly—know that you’re doing an incredible job.
You’ve got this, mama.
